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Created by Dedan Tolbert May 10, 2010 at 9:33am. Last updated by Dedan Tolbert Nov 11.

Dedan Tolbert is a Licensed Relationship Counselor, Award Winning Author & Host of "The Dedan Tolbert Show", which airs 7 Nights a week.

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Healing and Deliverance

Dear Dedan,

I want to express my deep appreciation and gratefulness for the break through you have done in my life. I just began listening to your show last Thursday and have honestly recieved more healing and deliverance from your message, than I have working with my church, a professional therapist and reading every self-help book I could get my hands on for over a year now!

About a year in a half ago, I experienced my first real heartbreak after being cheated on and then left for another woman. Since then I have literally beaten myself up everyday wrecking my brain for the answers and closure my boyfriend did not give me. (You see, his idea of closure was: "You're…


Posted by Dedan Tolbert on October 24, 2011 at 7:02pm

"You helped change my life..."

“Hey Dedan! I was at Sade's concert this weekend and saw this lady in the crowd and thought of you when my boyfriend leaned over to me and said, "I'm so glad you are a classy & beautiful lady. That woman over there has low self-esteem written all over her." Funny thing is, I WAS that lady 10 years ago when I thought putting it all there was how to get "attention." You're right...self-reflection is key!”

Posted by Dedan Tolbert on September 20, 2011 at 8:32pm

"Thank you for the realest advice ever..."

Thanks to you I did pay for the first date w/a gentleman I'm interested in & he said I was the first woman to ever do that. The smile on his face showed his appreciation,but more than anything I appreciated the time he took out of his busy schedule to even want to take me out to dinner so I felt it was the least I could do. He's such a hard working, go getter and I appreciate his sense of dedication and love for his family.

So since I love to cook that's one of the best things I can think to do for him when he has a moment to sit still between work & sleep that I often prepare home-cooked meals for him. He looked at me one day & told me he swore he'd never get married again but…


Posted by Dedan Tolbert on September 20, 2011 at 5:17pm

"I'm so grateful..."

Thank you so much for letting God use you to minister to me. I count you in the group of people God used to bring me back to him - and I am so grateful for eternal life and the joy he will bring to me. Thank you for being obedient to God and answering his call and keeping it real!!!

Posted by Dedan Tolbert on September 20, 2011 at 5:12pm

"I owe you so much..."

I owe u so much but I know all I have to do in favor is respect myself keep my legs closed! I finally see why u say what you say! You feel so much better cause when u give ur body away its like giving your soul away! When u do it freely for any man it causes hurt and pain and the expectations of u thinking another man can heal what the other destroyed! You will be counseling my daughter in years to come :) ♥

Posted by Dedan Tolbert on September 20, 2011 at 11:34am

"Your Loyal College Listeners"

Hey Dedan & Jerald,

Just thought we let you guys know we truly appreciate all the advice you've given throughout the pass year. My sister and I have been listening for a while, and though we are in college, we take each and every lesson you and Jerald discuss on the show, and apply it to our lives.

 (Being emotionally available, keeping our legs closed,paying for the first date, & setting ourselves apart) Just to name a few.

            Those friends we share your advice with think we are crazy of course, and that's cool. (They'll learn…


Posted by Dedan Tolbert on September 20, 2011 at 11:00am

"Already seeing changes in my life..."

Hi Dedan,

I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate you and the other men on the Dedan Tolbert Show.



 Just today I was thinking that you are all like the brothers we women wish we had. You guys are so honest and direct....and so bold and confident in your discourse. Thank God I found this show because I had given up thinking that men like you all still existed.

Please continue speaking the…


Posted by Dedan Tolbert on September 20, 2011 at 11:10am

'The Big Brothers I Never Had...'

"I think your advice is positive Dedan, and it's the absolute truth. You and Jerald are like the big brothers I never had. I like the fact that you all don't sugar coat anything. Black women need to LISTEN! You and Jerald are only trying to help and empower black women and show us how to receive the love we ultimately want. And for that I say "Thankyou" Dedan and Jerald."

Posted by Dedan Tolbert on September 20, 2011 at 11:05am


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Archived Episodes

"Keeping it Real Fridays: BETRAYAL- What's Unforgivable In Relationships"

  Did you miss last year's classic episode of “The Dedan Tolbert Show” where we discussed “Betrayal…What’s Absolutely Unforgivable in Dating & Relationships"? If so, tune in tonight at 9:00pm EST for a special rebroadcast. Listen to "The Dedan Tolbert Show" 7 nights a week by calling 646 200 0366 or online worldwide at "REAL Radio that Matters" for Over 10 Years"

"How to Avoid Being the Grinch that Hates Christmas"- Thanksgiving Rebroadcast

  Whether it’s going through drama with a loved one or being depressed because you don’t have a loved one…There are MANY reasons stemming from dating and relationships why many women have grown to hate the Christmas holiday season. Tune into "The Dedan Tolbert Show" TONIGHT at 9:00pm EST for a rebroadcast of our special on “How to Avoid Being the Grinch that Hates Christmas”, where we discussed exactly how to allow God to remove any built up hurt, pain and resentment and go into 2015 with a clean heart and a renewed spirit. To hear both our brand new “What’s Going on in the World” segment and “Ask Dedan Advice Hour”, where we’ll discuss the many reasons men cheat, call 646 20 0366 or listen LIVE online worldwide at “REAL Radio that Matters” #10years

"Trayvon Martin- Two years Later: Gun Violence in America Special"

Its been two years since the nation was turned upside down by the tragic death of a young man walking on his way home. Unfortunately, Trayvon Martin is just one of thousands of teenagers killed every year as a result of gun violence. Tune into "The Dedan Tolbert Show" LIVE tonight at 9:00pm EST as we discuss "Trayvon Martin: 2 Years Later...Gun Violence in America". To hear us discuss:the epidemic of black on black crime, gang violence, media bias, race relations and what can be done to get the guns off the street in your community, call 646 200 0366 or listen LIVE online worldwide at "REAL Radio that Matters".

"Barbershop Talk: How to Love a Black Woman the Right Way"

  In today's society, far too often do we hear stories of women having their hearts broken by the liars, dogs, cheaters, manipulators and abusers of the world. Now, It's time for you to hear from great men who are looking to love, cherish and respect our beautiful black queens. Tune into a special rebroadcast of "Barbershop Talk" on "The Dedan Tolbert Show" TONIGHT at 9:00pm EST, where my all star panel of professional black men will discuss "How to Love a Black Woman the RIGHT Way".  Listen 7 nights a week by calling 646 200 0366 or online worldwide at "REAL Radio that Matters".

"Relationship Titles: The Difference Between a BOO & a BOYFRIEND"

  Although often mistaken as being one in the same, there's a significant difference between a man viewing you as his future wife and you just being someone cool to "chill" with. Tune into "The Dedan Tolbert Show" TONIGHT at 9:00pm EST for a rebroadcast of our special on "Relationship Titles: The Difference Between a 'BOO' and a 'BOYFRIEND'". To hear the signs that will indicate you're being viewed as his Friday night booty call and how to avoid being strung along indefinitely, listen 7 nights a week, 365 days a year, by calling 646 200 0366 or online worldwide at "REAL Radio that Matters for Over 10 Years". #RRTM


Hurt and Pain 1 Reply

Ladies...No matter what type of hurt and pain men have put you through, God can turn things around and bless you with a great man who'll be everything you've ever dreamed of. Never let a broken heart cause you to question your belief in true love…Continue

Started by Dedan Tolbert. Last reply by sunset72 May 9, 2012.

Blaming yourself 2 Replies

Ladies…After the end of a turbulent, toxic relationship, the worst thing you can do is blame yourself. Extensive Self-reflection and examination is healthy…but blame is exactly what the devil wants you to do. Instead of beating yourself up, just…Continue

Started by Dedan Tolbert. Last reply by Jamilah Aug 30, 2013.

Lust of Men

Never confuse the love of God for the lust of men. A man telling you you're sexy is nothing compared to hearing God tell you He loves you.Continue

Started by Dedan Tolbert May 3, 2012.

Love is a two way street

Late Night Advice: LOVE is a two way street...If you're going down a "one way", you need to turn around and go in a different direction with your life.Continue

Started by Dedan Tolbert Apr 30, 2012.

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